I want Super Nanny
Oh...I haven't scrapped for over a week? The last few canvasses totally hit me for a six. I managed to do one 2 nights ago.... with fabric and lots of machine stitching to enter a scrapbook mag challenge as well as a forum challenge. I am dying to post it but I can't till end of the month. Sorry for the teaser... (or maybe no one is interested to see your LO, you silly!)
I also challenged my forum buddies to do a challenge within a week... to add another page to their BOM. The theme is "I am not...". I want them to reveal their inner selves... sort of like Shrek, the ogre, who said "Ogres are like onions, we have layers".... I want them to peel off their outer layers.. and tell their audience... about their true selves. Initially, I wanted to make this an easy challenge, and I did think this was not hard. After posting the challenge, I realised... it's really not that easy. Sorry guys... I guess it is a "true challenge" after all... hehehe...
I told myself that today, I'm not going to lose my patience at my kids. The truth of the matter is, I love them to death. They are my children, how can I not love them to death? But the other hard fact is.... you've got to be someone up there to have THAT MUCH tolerance for the things my children put me through, or I'm just not good enough.
Today is another typical "drive Mommy crazy" day. Lately, with Ellen, we are going through a phase, where she will take 2 hours to finish her ONE slice of bread, for breakfast. And that is with coaxing every few minutes, "Ellen, eat your bread", "Ellen are you eating?", "Ellen, have you finished your bread?". Lunch time.... I served sausage rolls - MY FIRST EVER ATTEMPT in making them, and she took a few bites, really enjoyed it... and then she decided to go play. So I said to her, "if you don't finish your lunch, you won't be getting your milk before your nap", cos I really don't want her to have this habit of skipping lunch but fall back on milk to fill up...know what I mean? Milk before nap is a big thing for her, so she quickly scurried back to her lunch. Instead of eating it, she did everything else but. She played with it, tore it into pieces, played with Phaedon sitting next to her, sang songs, danced.... so I'm like, "Ellen, you won't be getting your milk." This went on for like, another hour. I finally said, "OK, it's nap time." and lo and behold, she asked for milk and I wouldn't let her. She then went back to her lunch.... and did another 2 rounds of that "ritual" with me screaming the house down...cos by now, I've lost it. Two hours of coaxing to finish a slice of bread, one and a half hours of coaxing her to finish her lunch... oh, and last night, we (hubby and I) had to do the same to both kids for their dinner. I told hubby, "That's it!!! I think from now on, I should just let them starve. I would serve the meal. And if they won't finish it, so be it. Please give me the strength to waste food, and let them starve." I mean, seriously, this has gone too far. Right now, as I type, I am actually starving Phaedon. He has refused his breakfast and lunch, and I will not give him his milk. Is this child cruelty? And Ellen, has finally had her milk but that was 2 hours of begging for her to finish her lunch and threatening! If I keep giving in, when does this stop?
For those who will be reading this blog, I don't want hugs. Really. That's not what I want or need. I need to fix my children up. I want to be a nice and loving and doting and smiling SAHM 24/7, but it is just humanly impossible with their behaviour. So hugs for me just don't cut it.
I need Super Nanny.
I need to scrap... get these frustrations out of my system.
EDITED TO ADD
Soon after I made this post, Phaedon got out of bed when he was supposed to be napping. He came up to me and my laptop, tugged and tugged, so I offered him a small piece of the sausage roll for him to try. He ended up polishing 2 whole pieces and probably more.
Do you get that? I don't.
He then asked for his milk... and I obliged, I had to. That was my promise... finish lunch = get milk.
So why couldn't it be done in the first place? Why do we have to fight? sigh....
I also challenged my forum buddies to do a challenge within a week... to add another page to their BOM. The theme is "I am not...". I want them to reveal their inner selves... sort of like Shrek, the ogre, who said "Ogres are like onions, we have layers".... I want them to peel off their outer layers.. and tell their audience... about their true selves. Initially, I wanted to make this an easy challenge, and I did think this was not hard. After posting the challenge, I realised... it's really not that easy. Sorry guys... I guess it is a "true challenge" after all... hehehe...
I told myself that today, I'm not going to lose my patience at my kids. The truth of the matter is, I love them to death. They are my children, how can I not love them to death? But the other hard fact is.... you've got to be someone up there to have THAT MUCH tolerance for the things my children put me through, or I'm just not good enough.
Today is another typical "drive Mommy crazy" day. Lately, with Ellen, we are going through a phase, where she will take 2 hours to finish her ONE slice of bread, for breakfast. And that is with coaxing every few minutes, "Ellen, eat your bread", "Ellen are you eating?", "Ellen, have you finished your bread?". Lunch time.... I served sausage rolls - MY FIRST EVER ATTEMPT in making them, and she took a few bites, really enjoyed it... and then she decided to go play. So I said to her, "if you don't finish your lunch, you won't be getting your milk before your nap", cos I really don't want her to have this habit of skipping lunch but fall back on milk to fill up...know what I mean? Milk before nap is a big thing for her, so she quickly scurried back to her lunch. Instead of eating it, she did everything else but. She played with it, tore it into pieces, played with Phaedon sitting next to her, sang songs, danced.... so I'm like, "Ellen, you won't be getting your milk." This went on for like, another hour. I finally said, "OK, it's nap time." and lo and behold, she asked for milk and I wouldn't let her. She then went back to her lunch.... and did another 2 rounds of that "ritual" with me screaming the house down...cos by now, I've lost it. Two hours of coaxing to finish a slice of bread, one and a half hours of coaxing her to finish her lunch... oh, and last night, we (hubby and I) had to do the same to both kids for their dinner. I told hubby, "That's it!!! I think from now on, I should just let them starve. I would serve the meal. And if they won't finish it, so be it. Please give me the strength to waste food, and let them starve." I mean, seriously, this has gone too far. Right now, as I type, I am actually starving Phaedon. He has refused his breakfast and lunch, and I will not give him his milk. Is this child cruelty? And Ellen, has finally had her milk but that was 2 hours of begging for her to finish her lunch and threatening! If I keep giving in, when does this stop?
For those who will be reading this blog, I don't want hugs. Really. That's not what I want or need. I need to fix my children up. I want to be a nice and loving and doting and smiling SAHM 24/7, but it is just humanly impossible with their behaviour. So hugs for me just don't cut it.
I need Super Nanny.
I need to scrap... get these frustrations out of my system.
EDITED TO ADD
Soon after I made this post, Phaedon got out of bed when he was supposed to be napping. He came up to me and my laptop, tugged and tugged, so I offered him a small piece of the sausage roll for him to try. He ended up polishing 2 whole pieces and probably more.
Do you get that? I don't.
He then asked for his milk... and I obliged, I had to. That was my promise... finish lunch = get milk.
So why couldn't it be done in the first place? Why do we have to fight? sigh....
posted by mich at
13:03
5 Comments:
Aiyah...can't give you hugs....
Mich..you are a fantastic mother...and anyone can see that you love your kids. Kids that age are all the same...their sole source of entertainment at this age is seeing how far they can push their prime care giver.......it's a power struggle. Unfortunately...it's a phase they go through and having 2 kids close together is not easy...I know...I been down that road and swore no more kids! Tips: don't let them see that they have pushed you over the edge....remain calm and try the 123 magic technique.
And seriously...if they don't want to eat....let them learn natural consequences...no dinner. I would let them have their milk...but maybe only a half quantity as I am not keen on punishing by withholding nutrition. After a few times of going hungry....and with the parents not seeming to care...then they might change their tune.
take care!
Hey, that's really good advice, Ruey. Might try that next time.LOL.You are not a bad mum, Mich. My Abby is exactly the same, keeps food in her mouth for ages and when I want to give her another spoonful, she spits the previous mouthful...drives me up the wall. Same with nap. Takes ages to close her eyes. I think we all loses our patience and cool.
Waiting to see those canvases. I bought one I haven't scrap yet. Are you still going to bayswater's lss closing down sale? If so, the store is on a left turn just before the roundabout (a bit hard to see) on High Street.
Shirls
Thanks, girls. I will try the 123 magic next time. Shirley... I don't think I'll be making it to Bayswater. Too far a drive... and I've spent too much the past few days.... and I mean TOO MUCH. So much I'm afraid to tell.....does 3-figures in 3 days sound horrific to you? lol.... my canvasses are 2 of those layouts I posted in my 2nd post - the pink one (Miss Personality) and the chocolate one (Cover Girl).
cheers!
Michelle, ur kids are going thru the terrible 2s ... and what-hv-you. *giggles*
Yes, sometimes we hv to be cruel & heartless in order to make the kids know tat we meant what we said.
As of now, all you can do is continue doing what you're doing (ie screaming., shouting & threatening LOL). SOON it'll all come down to just a stare.
Or if you can do it, tell them one time. And just ignore them. When they asked for their milk, just reminded them tat "no finish meal = no milk". Then show them the unfinished meal. Yes, this is a test to ur patience & tolerance. And it's a good way to cultivate them too. *giggle*
eating thing is the only problem I have with my kiddo. It's like I'm "killing her" somehow. Ugh! Now I'm just saying she doesn't eat, she's watching us eating cupcakes, donuts, etc. Which is cruel... But also an excuse for me to eat cupcakes! lol.
Michelle
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