A big whinge ....
Well, for those who are concerned, I still haven't heard from the cop. Chief Operations Colin Mattheson was his name. Let's just hope it stays this way. I was going to say something sarcastic but I won't, just in case he's reading this. And Carole, I know what you meant... lol.
Past few days... very frustrated with my daughter's behaviour. Outrageously rude and manipulative. She yelled at me at the swimming pool, and aggressively pushed my hands away, when it was time to leave (because she has finished her lesson and another group's lesson was about to start). When I firmly demanded that she has to leave, she shouted that she wants Daddy to get her out of the pool instead of me. This is what she has been doing of late. Just out right manipulation, wants Daddy to do something when I was the one asking to do it for her, and wants me to do it when it was Daddy. And because we were at a public place, I didn't know what to do - I wish I could smack the bejeesus out of her but heaven forbid I can't lift a finger at my child, I couldn't talk her out of leaving the pool, and I couldn't leave her in the pool and walk away (which is what I would do if she did this in a mall). But I walked out of the pool and true enough, she started crying the house down. Still insisting on Daddy taking her out of the pool. He was busy showering our son, and of course, I wouldn't let her manipulate us anymore, I stood there and waited till she got out. After 2 minutes of this, I was freezing cold cos I was still wet, and my son is now ready to be dressed, I had no choice but gave in. I let Peter pick her out of the pool and I dressed my son instead. I got advised by Ruey... that we should be consistent that every time she misbehaves, in the house or in public, she will get her time outs. We need to keep reminding her on the way home, that she will get her time out as soon as she gets home, so she knows that is what she was being punished for in case they forget why by the time they get home.
I am so emotionally drained. It's a constant emotional and power struggle with her. I hate yelling at her, I really do. It makes her feel lousy... and I feel lousy too. But soooo many times, I'm so at my wit's end... that is the only emotion I can muster. Sometimes, I wish I'm a robot, not programmed with anger. Just process the logics and the happy emotions. I don't know how some people can only say nice things about their children. Don't their children ever misbehave? Don't their children ever do anything, anything at all that upset them? If they do, which I hope they do cos that means my children are still normal, then don't they have one single upset muscle in their body?? How come their children are always angels? My children always appear to be sooooo unbelievably .... ill-behaved (took me at least 30 seconds to come up with that word so it doesn't sound too bad [I know of people who don't like using the word "naughty" cos that's labelling their children and would be mortified that I publicly talk of my children like that. All I can say is, I admit I need counselling and I think the whole world does. ]).
Anyway, enough of blabber.
This layout took a while to complete.... 1.5 days. I was quite stuck with balancing the top part of the layout. The colours on these papers are rather ... bland. It was a challenge to colour balance it without having too much of a colour contrast. I'm glad it turned out quite decent.
Thanks for dropping by and listening to my whinge.
Past few days... very frustrated with my daughter's behaviour. Outrageously rude and manipulative. She yelled at me at the swimming pool, and aggressively pushed my hands away, when it was time to leave (because she has finished her lesson and another group's lesson was about to start). When I firmly demanded that she has to leave, she shouted that she wants Daddy to get her out of the pool instead of me. This is what she has been doing of late. Just out right manipulation, wants Daddy to do something when I was the one asking to do it for her, and wants me to do it when it was Daddy. And because we were at a public place, I didn't know what to do - I wish I could smack the bejeesus out of her but heaven forbid I can't lift a finger at my child, I couldn't talk her out of leaving the pool, and I couldn't leave her in the pool and walk away (which is what I would do if she did this in a mall). But I walked out of the pool and true enough, she started crying the house down. Still insisting on Daddy taking her out of the pool. He was busy showering our son, and of course, I wouldn't let her manipulate us anymore, I stood there and waited till she got out. After 2 minutes of this, I was freezing cold cos I was still wet, and my son is now ready to be dressed, I had no choice but gave in. I let Peter pick her out of the pool and I dressed my son instead. I got advised by Ruey... that we should be consistent that every time she misbehaves, in the house or in public, she will get her time outs. We need to keep reminding her on the way home, that she will get her time out as soon as she gets home, so she knows that is what she was being punished for in case they forget why by the time they get home.
I am so emotionally drained. It's a constant emotional and power struggle with her. I hate yelling at her, I really do. It makes her feel lousy... and I feel lousy too. But soooo many times, I'm so at my wit's end... that is the only emotion I can muster. Sometimes, I wish I'm a robot, not programmed with anger. Just process the logics and the happy emotions. I don't know how some people can only say nice things about their children. Don't their children ever misbehave? Don't their children ever do anything, anything at all that upset them? If they do, which I hope they do cos that means my children are still normal, then don't they have one single upset muscle in their body?? How come their children are always angels? My children always appear to be sooooo unbelievably .... ill-behaved (took me at least 30 seconds to come up with that word so it doesn't sound too bad [I know of people who don't like using the word "naughty" cos that's labelling their children and would be mortified that I publicly talk of my children like that. All I can say is, I admit I need counselling and I think the whole world does. ]).
Anyway, enough of blabber.
This layout took a while to complete.... 1.5 days. I was quite stuck with balancing the top part of the layout. The colours on these papers are rather ... bland. It was a challenge to colour balance it without having too much of a colour contrast. I'm glad it turned out quite decent.
Thanks for dropping by and listening to my whinge.
posted by mich at
21:21
4 Comments:
hey mich. sorry to hear you've been having a bad time with ellen. i don't think i can give you an advice because i'm really not there yet (except for the time at ruey's.lol. but that stopped as soon as we were out of the door).
layout is PERFECT!!!
You're not alone, Mich. And i do think you are a wonderful woman, doing all that you do! :) Chin up, ok! :D - Mel
Yup you definitely not alone. Sarah too has been throwing her tantrum. She has been rude to my parents and even pushed me when i disallow her to do something. With that i brought straight to her thinking corner, the toilet. Wherever we are, we will always remind her to behave and told her that toilet is just around the cornet :P So im a bad mummy too :D
*hugs* to you girl. Such days happen to me all the time. Kady knows her limits & honestly, I am not afraid to admit that she'll get her spanking even tho' we are in a public place. We are also quite consistent with this, so usually by the count of 3, she would've calm down 'cos she knows she has got evil parents! :P
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